Guest Contributor: Allie Diamond
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The words I have to share with you today may or may not be a
surprise to you. If you are living in Utah and you are between the ages of
10-17, you fall into the age group that happens to have the highest suicide
rate in the state of Utah. If you narrow this group down further, girls ages
10-17 are increasing at a higher rate of suicidal ideation/attempts/completions
than boys. Do you know what the number one reason for suicidal ideation is for
young people in general ages 10-17? If
you guessed Bullying or Cyber Bullying, you are exactly right.
Along time ago, I was in your age group. It was the 1980’s.
I was bullied for more reasons than I can count. Some of them were:
Having too much money, not having enough money, not having
nice enough clothes, having clothes that were too nice, my nose and chin were
“weird,” and I was also considered to be “overweight” by my peers. During my 5th
grade year, I hitchhiked home from school and ducked into the homes of
strangers on my walk to school to avoid being beat up. I was physically
assaulted in a classroom by a fellow student while the teacher stood by and
watched. I was threatened at my home in front of my parents. This kind of
abusive behavior went on until I was in 10th grade.
Back when I was growing up, we didn’t have the internet. Now
bullies can come into our homes, day and night simply by accepting a friend
request or having a dispute with someone on line who decides to make your life
miserable on line. Even blocking people or ignoring them can be unsuccessful.
Some people are forced to change their phone numbers, cease using social media,
change schools or even cities… Some
people are making another choice, and that choice involves suicide.
Suicide is the word we use to describe the decision a person
makes to die by their own decision. When someone makes this decision, their
thinking is not clear and they are feeling like there is no hope.
Suicide can be a really scary word and can be even scarier
to talk about. I can tell you that if someone talks to you about suicide and
you talk back to them, or if you are afraid someone is going to harm
themselves, talking to them about it is the best thing you can do! Opening a
dialogue is important. It won’t cause anyone to want to hurt themselves more.
But back to bullying for a moment… stopping bullying can be
one of the most important things you can do for a person. Standing up for
someone you see being bullied in a safe way and reporting the problem to school
administration, parents or even the police when necessary. Don’t put yourself
in a situation of immediate harm, but if you can pull a person away to safety
do that. Show them that you care, even if they aren’t your friend, your actions
could mean the world to them!
If you are being cyber-bullied (bullied online) please tell
your parents or a trusted adult. Screen shot any threats to your safety or well-being and open a case with local police if the situation calls for it. You
can always call local police dispatch to explain the situation if you aren’t
sure.
Let’s apply this information to the 5 Keys of Self Esteem!
1-
Personality: By supporting others we build
strong character, which helps our personalities grow and strengthen! When we
step out of a comfort zone to serve others, we become the best version of
ourselves!
2-
Good Friends –vs- Bad Friends: This Key is very
important when talking about Bullying and Suicide prevention! Many of us don’t
realize we are in a bad situation with someone before it’s too late, or we are
afraid to say something for fear of being a target of bullying. Listen to your
“gut.” To those inner feelings that help us decide right from wrong. Ask
someone you respect for help if you can’t make a choice on your own. Remember
that you are important and deserve to be treated with dignity and respect!
3-
Make your Mark! By standing up for yourself and
others, you will make your mark! People will see that you are a leader and they
will know their limits and boundaries where you are concerned. Leadership
skills will last your whole life long. Develop them anyway you can!
4-
Comfort in Your Own Skin- Know your worth and
that your worth is based on so much more than what you see in social media, on
TV or hear about from others. Love your own uniqueness, share your traits with
the world, don’t be afraid to be seen and heard, you are important and you are
ENOUGH, just the way you are!
5-
Healthy Living! Mental Health is just as
important as physical health. The connection between our brains and bodies is
undeniable! If you are feeling down (depressed) or hopeless, tell someone you
can trust, these situations are treatable and the feelings are temporary. Even
when they don’t feel temporary… they are and you have the ability to get past
them with your own inner strength, help from others and from your Shimmer!
Sparkle! Shine! Community!
Thanks for reading today! If I can answer any questions for
you directly, please contact me at: alliediamondlcsw@gmail.com
If you are someone you know is feeling unsafe for any
reason, please reach out to an adult you can trust. You can also use the
National Suicide Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK.
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