I was thinking about friends recently
and how the dynamics of friendships change throughout life. In
middle school and high school, it really does feel like your world
revolves behind those classroom walls. I came across this quote and
it pretty much sums up how the quantity and quality change as we get
older. As a 7th and 8th grader, I remember
feeling that the world was coming to an end if I wasn’t able to
make it to school for some reason. I remember thinking, no matter
what, I HAD TO BE THERE. Middle school wasn’t perfect for me, but
overall I enjoyed being with my friends, more then I enjoyed being
home with my family. High School came; I went to a new school and
had to find new friends. In middle school it seemed that my friends
came in a group. If I had one new friend, 3 others came as part of
the deal. In high school, the numbers were definitely smaller and I
had to learn to build individual relationships. After high school,
into the college and adult years I literally walked away with maybe 5
friends. 1 lasted 6 months, 1 for a few years, 1 for 5+ years, 1 for
10+ years and 1 that I now know will last a life time.
If I could magically get kids to
realize one thing, it might be for them to understand that ultimately
life will go on with or without some of the kids they are “friends”
with, at any given time in school. Emotions, hormones, growth, brain
development and so much more go into those feelings. The world is
small and often self centered because they don’t know any better
yet. They can’t see past tomorrow, next week or even a month from
now. At times, as adults, we remember those feelings and the
realization that hey, someone once told me that too and they were
right. Yet, when it comes to our own children we forget how it did
feel at that moment in time when we thought the world was going to
end for a multitude of reasons. I remember telling my daughter,
these friends will not matter; they will not be around in a year or
two. You’ll go off to high school or college and probably never
talk again. Personalities change, interest change, boys happen,
family can get in the way, and sometimes even life trials take over.
As parents, it can be a fine balance between support, advice and I
told you so.
Mom and dad, give your kids an extra
hug when a relationship is a challenge in your kid’s life. Kids,
don’t forget, mom and dad have been there. They were once your age
and I’m sure, had to go through many of the same trials. So when
they share some advice or give you words of encouragement, realize
they might just now more then you give them credit for.
-Michelle
Sparkler Mom
-Michelle
Sparkler Mom
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