Making New Friends

As the SSS mom, I don’t participate in the workshops, so I have been able to sit back quietly and watch the interaction between the volunteers and the girls on occasion.  I really enjoy seeing the variety of girls that participate. It’s like people watching, but on a smaller scale. Not only are they different physically, but the personalities of the girls vary greatly as you can imagine.  In our Good Friend vs Bad Friend station and our Personalities station, we really try to emphasize that it’s okay to be unique.   We want them to realize that not only is it okay for them to be different, but it’s okay for them to be accepting of others who are different.   It’s okay to have friends that don’t always like the same things as you. It’s okay to go outside of your normal middle school “clique” and make a new friend.   It’s okay to reach out to someone that may appear to be a little lonely at school.Don't hesitate to SHARE YOUR SPARKLE in unique ways. 

 
As I write this, old sayings like “You can’t judge a book by its cover” and “It’s not what’s on the outside that counts, it’s what’s on the inside” keep coming to mind. It’s so basic, yet so hard to remember at times for adults and kids. Someone who you think is the ultimate friend may let you down and someone you would never normally reach out to may end up being the best friend you ever had.  Funny thing is, you’ll never know unless you try. Sometimes it may take you introducing yourself and just saying Hi. Sometimes it may only take a smile to break the barrier. Other times, it may require you really being aware of your surroundings and reaching out with an action to someone who appears to need a little boost.  Sometimes you’ll be successful on the first attempt. Other times, you may not get the response you expected or wanted. Heck, you may not get any response at all and that’s okay. I still struggle with this myself, but have tried really hard recently to make new friends and have been thankful I did. Remaining open to differences and looking for the good in others, is just one small piece of the work it takes to be a “Good Friend”.  
 
Michelle



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